When you say that he/she is going to be there for you, no matter what, how can you be so sure about it? Is it a case wherein you are taking that person for granted? If so, it is not a good thing. Try to step into his/her shoes and try to think what it feels like to be ignored. This Quotabulary article gives you some great quotes on this situation that are sure to get you thinking.
Read between the lines!
If the other person hardly initiates any contact, ignores you completely (obviously not when he/she is weak and needs you!), and never appreciates your care and love for him/her; do understand that he/she has completely taken you for granted. It would be better if you take precautions to not get hurt in the future.
Every single person has gone through this phase at least once in life! Be it friendships, relationships, or family; humans are quite designed to just ignore the best part of their lives. Being taken for granted is a horrible feeling because you’re ready to do whatever it takes for the person to be happy; and then you realize that he/she smiled (mission accomplished for you!) but the effort behind that just went unnoticed (again you’re blue!).
If you’re suffering from this pain, just remember that “pain is inevitable, suffering is optional”. You need to learn to say “no”, and stop hurting yourself always.
There is always the other side, a second side, to the story. In this case, ask yourself if you’re taking anything or anyone for granted in your life. You can always focus on the positive side and be grateful of everything. Be grateful to the person who showers you with pure love, the little things that make you feel good, the funny people or conversations that made you burst out laughing, or just because everything is beautiful. Whatever it is, just feel the gratitude.
Here are some quotes and sayings which will help ease your pain, or just give you some food for thought.
Quotes About Being Taken for Granted
❝ Being taken for granted can be a compliment. It means that you’ve become a comfortable, trusted element in another person’s life. ❞
― Joyce Brothers
❝ All your youth you want to have your greatness taken for granted; when you find it taken for granted, you are unnerved. ❞
― Elizabeth Bowen
❝I have learned that some of the nicest people you’ll ever meet are those who have suffered a traumatic event or loss. I admire them for their strength, but most especially for their life gratitude – a gift often taken for granted by the average person in society. ❞
― Sasha Azevedo
❝ There is no substitute for the comfort supplied by the utterly taken-for-granted relationship. ❞
― Iris Murdoch
❝Condiments are like old friends-highly thought of, but often taken for granted. ❞
― Marilyn Kaytor
❝ Getting anything changes it from being desirable to just being taken for granted. ❞
❝ The man who prefers not be taken seriously is often times the same who rues being taken for granted. ❞
❝ Never take someone for granted. Hold every person close to your heart because you might wake up one day and realize that you’ve lost a diamond while you were too busy collecting stones. ❞
❝ It is very easy to take for granted the phenomenon that we are each alive, but we must try not to. ❞
― Alex Grey
❝ When it comes to life the critical thing is whether you take things for granted or take them with gratitude. ❞
― Gilbert Keith Chesterton
❝ When something does not insist on being noticed, when we aren’t grabbed by the collar or struck on the skull by a presence or an event, we take for granted the very things that most deserve our gratitude. ❞
― Cynthia Ozick
❝ It made me have a much greater understanding of loss, of loneliness, and the level of intense tragedy that so many people have experienced in this world, I take a lot less for granted. ❞
― Adrien Brody
❝ Well, one thing, you got to stand in a courtroom and listen to a judge sentencing you to 25 years in prison before you realize that freedom of expression can no longer be taken for granted. ❞
― Larry Flynt
❝ One very important aspect of motivation is the willingness to stop and to look at things that no one else has bothered to look at. This simple process of focusing on things that are normally taken for granted is a powerful source of creativity. ❞
― Edward de Bono
❝ Your talent is your art. It is not to be taken for granted. ❞
― Paula Abdul
❝ I still make sure to go, at least once every year, to a country where things cannot be taken for granted, and where there is either too much law and order or too little. ❞
― Christopher Hitchens
❝ Yet food is something that is taken for granted by most world leaders despite the fact that more than half of the population of the world is hungry. ❞
― Norman Borlaug
❝ We don’t really make bad records, though some people might like some more than others. And we have never really done a bad show. So I think in a way maybe we’ve been taken for granted. ❞
― Tom Petty
❝ I don’t like being taken for granted anywhere in life. I don’t want my vote taken for granted. ❞
― Rob Lowe
❝ My years with failing vision have prompted me to learn about the nature of the eye and the incredible gift of sight, which I had always taken for granted until it began to slip away. ❞
― Henry Grunwald